One question students have been asking in the dining tutorials lately is: “If I have an interview meal, should I offer to pay the bill or at least pay for myself?”
I understand the thinking behind that.
“I want the interviewer to see I am a nice person.”
“I would buy the interviewer a Thanksgiving dinner to get this job.”
“I’m highly competitive and I’ve never lost a fight over a check.”
The answer: No, you should not offer to pay. The interviewer has invited you, so the interviewer should pay.
Whoever does the inviting, pays. If you invite someone out for a meal or coffee for an informational interview, you would pay the bill.
More Interview Meal reminders:
- Wait for the interviewer to tell you where to sit.
- If someone approaches your table and the interviewer introduces you, stand up to greet that person.
- You order first, interviewer orders second.
- Order something inexpensive (so you won’t look like someone who will drive up the expense account); something neat; and something familiar (don’t order turtle soup if you’ve never had turtle soup.)
- Talk business after you place your order.
- Taste your food before you season it.
- Try not to send things back.
- Keep pace with your interviewer — don’t finish too far ahead or too far behind.
- No doggy bag… your dog never has to know.
- If you only make it through half your meal, remember, you are there to do business first and eat second.
- Kill the wait staff with kindness — it’s a reflection of how you will treat others in the workplace.
Don’t forget to follow up with a thank you note.
Thank you to our friends at the Culture & Manners institute for sharing your wisdom and insight!